Roses bloom at different times of the year. “The first rose bloom cycle, can be affected by frost, which will slow down the growth of your rose bushes, and hot spells which will speed it up. The subsequent cycles are much more predictable. Watch your roses, keep records, see which roses take 5 weeks to bloom, 6 weeks and so on. Knowledge of the stages that roses go through during each bloom cycle will help you understand what they need to be fed and what extra work might be desirable at any particular time” (http://scvrs.homestead.com/BloomCycles.html ).
To me, the above paragraph sounds like children’s development. Even though, children are the same age, they ‘bloom’ at different times. Having experience and knowledge of different times and stages of ‘blooming’ can help us cultivate the best ‘blossoms’.
I think this is most evident when you compare boys and girls. TFor those of you who have both boys and girls and will no doubt say that girls mature far quicker than boys. But, it is fair to say, that no matter what gender, all children develop and mature differently.
Development is not only physical, where one child may be head and shoulders taller than another, but also social and emotional. Learning to cope with different situations can be difficult (see blog: https://www.stlukes.nsw.edu.au/blog/emotional-regulation/) as can learning to socialise and communicate with others effectively. Some seem to ‘get it’ quickly, while and others notcan take a lot longer.
I think it is important not to compare our children to others. I have children of my own and find it challenging not to compare them to others of similar age. I remind myself not to, but when I do, I remember that ‘flowers bloom at different times’.
With the complexity of a child, how can we better understand where our child is up to? This is where we need to be careful. Yes, it is nice to know where on the bell curve our child sits. But also remember that every child is unique, with their own strengths, areas to improve on and will ‘bloom’ when ready. What we need to do is to try and “understand what they need to be fed and what extra work might be desirable at any particular time” - just like roses. This can be difficult to know, but if we are patient and understanding, we can hope to ‘feed’ each child what is best for them.
At St Luke’s, we aim to deliver individualised student focussed learning. This is because we recognise each child is unique. Moreover, as an Anglican School, we also treat each person as important because they are made in the image of God.
Assistant Head of Junior School, Dee Why
Snetslinger, L. (2016). Retrieved from http://scvrs.homestead.com/BloomCycles.html